Fix excluded action filtering in player

[Old-Ding]

Summary

• check the action exclusion list before filtering action-interface topics instead of checking the unrelated topic exclusion list
• preserve include filtering while making action exclusions take precedence during publisher/client preparation
• extend the existing action playback test to verify that only the non-excluded action client is created

Testing

• compiled and ran a focused C++ probe reproducing baseline=allowed and confirming fixed=excluded when only the action exclusion list is populated
• verified the generic, service, and action branches each use their owning exclusion list
• verified the regression scenario includes both actions, excludes one, and expects exactly one action client
• git diff --check

The repository-native C++ test was not run locally because this Windows environment does not have the ROS 2 build dependencies or colcon. Repository CI covers the full integration test.